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Kim K & International Women’s Day

Earlier this week Kim Kardashian found another way to break the Internet. This time, she posted a selfie of herself nude in a mirror, with parts of her body censored off by black boxes.

Of course, the post sparked backlash from all sorts of people. Some claimed she shouldn’t post the selfie because “she’s a mother.” Chloe Moretz famously tweeted at Kim to use her platform to promote more than her body, and Bette Midler tweeted that if we want to see a new part of Kim, she’ll have to “swallow the camera.”

On International Women’s Day yesterday, Kim penned a blog post in defense of her actions. She wrote:

            “I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me. And I hope that through this platform I have been given, I can encourage the same empowerment for girls and women all over the world.”

Well, Kim K, while I applaud you for being comfortable with your body and aiming to promote that all women do so and feel sexually empowered, you’re missing the point.

You can absolutely post a selfie of you naked. Go for it. I agree, just because “you’re a mother” doesn’t mean you can’t. You’re the one in charge of your body so you can do what you want with it.

What I have a problem with is that you’re promoting the idea that women are their bodies and that their bodies are their most important aspect. The entire point of International Women’s Day is to promote the minds, hard work and success of women beyond how society hypersexualizes their body. It aims to equalize the success of those who use the bodies they are born with and those who further their career with their mind (a point Pink missed entirely).

My problem lies in her blog post. Her entire defense about her selfie draws attention to the fact that she now promotes for young girls the empowerment that their body is what’s most important. I do hope that women and girls around the world become comfortable in their own skin, love their body, and embrace any “flaws” they might have. Body shaming of any kind isn’t OK. More than this, though, I hope women and girls around the world realize that they are more than their bodies.

I do question your intentions, Kim Kardashian. If you’re so comfortable with your “flaws,” why did you post a selfie from a year ago (25 pounds lighter) and disprove your penned “comfort with your body.” I am not body shaming, simply questioning how your actions equate to your words. Your tweet about your 25 pound lighter figure subverts the entire point of your blog post and body shames those who are 25 pounds heavier.

And while women are already famously made into sexual objects by magazine covers and headlines, movies and advertisements, it’s time this changes. That’s what you should have said, Kim Kardashian. That you can be both brilliant and sexy; that your mind is as important as your body; and that you should embrace your body no matter its shape or size, and realize that it’s not just what’s on the outside, what could sexually please another being, and what is seen in a naked mirror selfie that is all that matters.

Women should be sexually empowered- I am an advocate for sex positive feminism. But Kim K’s naked selfie added to the hypersexualization, objectification, and societal pressures that I already feel to “have the perfect body.”

And on International Women’s Day, Kim Kardashian could have said her selfie was to show that while she has a rockin’ body, she is so much more than that.

 

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Cosmo’s Post is Part of the Problem

Cosmopolitan Magazine is under fire for Anna Breslaw’s June 12 post “Female Celebrities Who Insist They’re Not Fat Are Part of the Problem.”

Fans are firing back under the comment section, all agreeing the article is offensive.

So what’s the problem here?

To begin, the article criticizes actress Allison Tolman for proclaiming on Twitter that she is not fat. Well if she wants to correct people for defining her size on the public forum that Twitter is, there really is no issue to it.

Second, Breslaw’s argument is that though Tolman notes that women shouldn’t be judged by their size, she says “I’m not fat,” and that somehow negates her argument……No. No, Breslaw, it doesn’t. It means she can dispute whatever people say about her body. She can say she isn’t fat, and still maintain that women shouldn’t be judged on their size.

It’s the same as a person saying people shouldn’t be judged by race, and still correcting someone when they misidentify them with another race. I can say we shouldn’t judge people and then add, “I’m not Hispanic,” after someone called me one, without that being an insult to Hispanics. It’s not at all, it’s just clarification because I, indeed, am not Hispanic. Tolman doesn’t attack fat people, she has every right to identify herself as the person she is.

So Breslaw, it’s actually posts like that that are part of the problem. It’s posts that attack people for defending their own size that put the emphasis on the weight of women. It’s posts that blame a woman for defining herself as “average,” that make people judge more on the line between thin and large.

There’s no reason for those. There was no reason for Breslaw to attack Tolman because she solidified the world of judgement on size more than Tolman ever did on Twitter. Society shouldn’t claim issues with weight, whether someone is small or large. That’s their personal health issue, not one for Cosmo’s critique, not one for their solidification, and certainly not one for them to claim someone turned into an issue when their response was self defense.

So Cosmo, if I tweet “I’m not fat,” will there be backlash with that? I may not be famous, but I guarantee people won’t be saying that the tweet causes an issue with weight.

Cosmo, you caused the issue more by writing about it than Tolman did by correcting people who were categorizing her size.

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Beauty and Cancer

As an avid tweeter, I recently saw something on my TimeLine that hit close to home.

Another user tweeted “One of the most beautiful things in life is to see someone fight cancer.” With a mother who has stage four, metastatic breast cancer, I couldn’t have agreed less.

I’ve seen cancer change a person. As their body fights relentlessly, I’ve seen it dwindle away. I’ve watched a healthy, muscular person shrink four sizes smaller, skin grows paler, and spirits diminish. It’s an exhausting encounter, cancer is.

It isn’t beautiful to watch someone struggle. It isn’t beautiful to see them cry in frustration. It isn’t beautiful to find chunks of hair on the pillow, their clothes. It’s many other things, but it certainly isn’t beautiful.

The person who tweeted this must never have had a near and dear relative struggle with the disease. Because cancer…cancer is difficult.

There is one moment in the fight of cancer that is truly spectacular. Beautiful, if you have a limited vocabulary and want to call it that.

As the fighter, the tired, the warrior, completes their last chemotherapy treatment at M.D. Anderson in Houston, they ring a bell. The success, the twinkle in their eye of victory- is purely indescribable. Magical, wonderful: The chime of the golden bell that signals the end of fight, is the only ‘beautiful’ moment cancer has.

That being said, I’m not saying cancer takes away the beauty of a person.

While I’ve watched it transform my mother into someone different, someone smaller, someone exhausted, it hasn’t taken away her radiating beauty. I think I’m more proud to call her my mother in her hats and scarves then I was when she had her blonde hair.

Cancer can do a lot of things. It can hurt, it can change lives, it can bury itself in the farthest reaches of a person’s body, but it cannot make them less beautiful.

The fight itself is not pretty. I disagree with the aforementioned tweet because of this point. The fight, the chemotherapy, the radiation, none of that is beautiful. Those aspects of cancer are melancholy, hard to watch and something no one ever wants to endure. The beauty lies in the person. The one who never gives up, who maintains hope, who- no hair and all- is still as stunning as they were beforehand.

Cancer is not a beautiful fight. The person fighting it, however, is.

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