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A Summer Education

This summer I returned home after my first year at Syracuse. I wrote for a local newspaper, I learned and grew as a reporter, I ate dinner every night with my dad, I saw high school friends- I established a routine similar to that of being back at college or in high school.

But this summer taught me a lot…

  • The value of time.

I spent mornings in the office, receiving my assignments, then afternoons at home carrying them out or at interviews. From this, I learned how fast times flies. Three months of routine flew by like one fun week. Things I kept putting off never got done. Time is precious and I should have enjoyed the summer more.

  • Travel. Travel.

Having grown up in Canada, Michigan and Texas (all vastly different places) I can’t say my heart belongs to one region. I feel ties to all and through that, I’ve learned to love travel. I love seeing new places, picking up basic words in a foreign language, investing myself in a new culture. A series of circumstances lead me home all summer instead of in a study abroad program, but I still had the opportunity to travel. When I saw pictures of all my friends in various places around the world, I yearned to be anywhere other than the suburbia I lived in. Luckily, I travelled through Colorado, I immersed myself in nature, I spent time in Canada and Grand Rapids, and I had the adventure of a lifetime in Istanbul. This summer showed me I can travel, and I should plan ahead to be able to.

  • Family Dinners

Growing up I loved sitting down after the evening news to dinner with my mom, dad and sister. But a lot of things changed this year. All summer, I sat down to dinner with my dad. Last summer I probably would have done anything to get to eat with my friends or their families, but this year I made no effort to. Dinner with my dad at 6:30 was important to me. I wanted to sit with him, I wanted to hang out and talk about our days and let him know he wasn’t alone. Family dinners were something I always looked forward to, even if they’ve transitioned into merely a father-daughter date every night.

  • Internships

Mmm… the bane of any college student’s existence: internships. For college students with amazing internship opportunities, they’re pretty much the coolest thing next to sliced bread and liquor stores that don’t I.D. For those who applied a million places and came across the paradox of “you don’t have any experience” and needing a place to “give you experience,” internships suck. For me, it wasn’t too bad. I was able to get paid, learn about reporting, establish myself at a Houston area newspaper, get real bylines and learn the business first-hand. While I had this internship all summer, I spent time searching for more. I landed one with the Creative Minds Group at the Toronto International Film Festival, applied for others, and did research on ones I could want in the future. Basically, I was able to plan for possible internships….and when I’m swamped with 19 credits next semester and barely have time to call home, I’ll be happy I got this done sooner rather than later.

  • That true friends can grow separately and never grow apart.

Let’s be honest, I came home for the first summer after high school and made contact with 1/3 of the people I hung out with last summer. Even my main group of friends made it together less and less as the summer went on. But what I realized (and am eternally grateful for) is that my real and true friends, though we couldn’t always talk as much as we wanted to while at school, are still my real friends now. We get in mini fights, we argue about insignificant things, we hold each other accountable and confront each other when we’re frustrated, but we’re best friends and basically siblings.

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Loyalty is a Lifestyle

The age of hookup culture has everyone obsessed with the idea of loyalty… except they’ve got it all wrong.

Quotes about loyalty appear everywhere; monopolizing the timelines of teenage girls craving loyalty from the guy they’re “with.”

But that’s just it—loyalty isn’t simply the commitment between a man and a woman for relationship purposes.

Loyalty is not forgetting where you came from when you skim the surface of success. It’s remembering who helped you, who was there at your lowest, and making sure they’re just as important when you’ve made it big as they were when you were nothing.

Loyalty is friendships that don’t fail, that don’t end, because your lives are so intertwined in history that you fight through miscommunications and disagreements to stay friends for years to come.

There is loyalty in dependability and being a responsible person, because others can lean on you and know you’ll be there.

Loyalty is keeping your job when management fails you because you believe in the ideals of the company.

Loyalty demands more than mediocrity. When you’re loyal to a person, completely and wholeheartedly invested in them be it friendship or professionally, it’s demanding them to be the best they can be.

People mistake it for the words of a catchy Chris Brown tune or the idea that you should be with one person at a time. It’s not that shallow.

Loyalty seeps into various categories and relationships, from work to business to friendships and connections. It can’t be demanded, or asked for. Loyalty is earned, given, maintained, and respected.

It’s as simple as being loyal to yourself and staying true to your morals and beliefs, to being loyal to your body and treating it preciously, to being loyal to your family and friends and never letting them down or failing them.

Loyalty is a lifestyle- remember that.

 

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